When Lent is Messy

Suitcases lie on the bedroom floor, clothes drape over the zipper edges like prisoners trying to escape. An open hanging bag pilfered for the jacket he thought we left behind covers the chaise lounge. I move things from one surface to the next trying to find the shoes I need to wear.

In the family room, clean laundry from this week and the folded towels from last week, they stack neatly around the edges of the couch among the cords, headsets, and controllers.

I decide to call the crew.  Tell them that they can’t come and clean today because sometimes you have to clean up the mess you made before the real cleaning can take place. And that can take a while.

Living Lent recognizes the messiness of life, so He can do the deep soul cleaning.

The red chested finch, he swings on the empty feeder, bobbing his head sharp like robot pecking steel for food.  He pauses in the direction of my writing window and I wonder how long he will continue to make the journey back to an empty storehouse. How long it will take him to recognize when it is full again. How long it will take me to stop procrastinating.

Living Lent reminds me that my choices have consequences for others.

Because my storehouses can run tired empty in a parking lot conversation with a friend when opinions differ, when my child interrupts my thoughts for the third time in the same paragraph, when time runs a sprint and I am doing a marathon.

Grace extends like a scarf blowing long in breeze of wind when the heart is full of what feeds life.

I extract the brown crunchy flowers among the endurance runners in the vase.  A fragrant bouquet I held in wet paper towel under the glow of the dashboard last week. Because they were travelling the next day and why don’t you enjoy them for us they said, after serving us a dinner for kings.

Living Lent separates the dry and brittle places that winter the soul; exposes the vibrant summer, dancing barefoot in the rain places.  

The light fixture over my vanity holds four different glass shades. Each one is distinctly different in color, shape and design. We’re trying to decide. One falls off without warning, lands into the sink, shatters into tiny shards on the counter and around my feet.  One breaks, now all have to be replaced.

Living Lent reveals the broken places in preparation for renewal.

And when someone asks me how I hear God, what I do to observe Lent, I think about the pull of choices that determine how love and grace reveal themselves in the everyday. In the laundry and cleaning up, over random conversation and fixing  what is broken.

In the messy of the mundane, He reminds me of my own frailty, how much I need Him. How grateful I am that resurrection is coming.

Just whispering here - I filled the bird feeder and they are enjoying the riches.

 

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For When Things Feel Uncertain

She’s wearing dresses again. I didn’t think we would ever get past the jeans and t-shirt phase.

My girl stands in front of me swinging half circles while watching the skirt dance on her thighs and asks if I think it needs ironing. The favorite skirt she selects from the heap at the bottom of her closet, with all the other clothes she tried on yesterday. I tell her, if it were me wearing the skirt, I would iron it.

“Well, then that means I need to iron it,” she decides, stopping to pull the zipper down.

It’s been a while since she ironed. About as long ago as the last time she wanted to wear a dress to school. .  . and take my advice about wrinkled clothes.

As she slides the ironing board down, plugs in the iron, she smiles over a recollection. Crouches down to show me how small she was when she learned to navigate an iron without burning herself the first time.

“Remember how I used to iron Daddy’s shirts,” she asks. “I think he paid me fifty cents for each one.” A little girl who earns money by ironing, to buy the next Littlest Pet Shop creature to add to her collection.

I do remember. Like it was yesterday.

My husband reminded me of the ironing phase the other day, when I admitted that I worry about missing teaching opportunities with my girl. That maybe I need to be more intentional about teaching her how to cook. Cook chicken, not chocolate chip cookies.

Only three summers left before she flies out of the nest. And I quiver among the what ifs. What if she is unprepared to spread her wings and glide?

And while she transforms from a girl into a woman, we slide into the age of the in-between together. The uncertain middle of what was and what is yet to be. 

When the hands that hold tight, loosen their grasp to let go.

When the eyes that rest on the familiar, widen to unknown vistas on the horizon.

When the mind sacrifices spinning questions to honor trust.

Complacency and fear wrestle with faith during the in-between seasons of transition. 

Because complacency, it can’t recognize the future and fear follows the crowd.

But faith, it lies down in the transformation of perspective that recognizes destiny when she arrives.

After she pulls on her black boots and tights under that skirt that inspires twirling pretty, she asks me if we can meet after school at the art store, get a coffee at Starbucks.  “Sure,” I say surprised.

Then I remember all those tearful prayers during the jeans and t-shirt phase.

Uncertain about the future? Do this:

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. They you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is. ~Romans 12:2

Ever have a time when you felt stuck, uncertain about the future? How did you navigate that season?