Taking Comfort in Nonconformity

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I have a hard time letting go. It’s why I wrote about it for 31 Days.

I find myself thinking I need to twist and turn and conform to some better version of me. Usually in the afterglow of feeling confident. It’s a place I seem to return to often, a conversation with myself like the lines of a play I’ve memorized all my life. My intonation and voice never quit good enough. To me.

H and I wind our way into the center of city life on the wrong side of the road. The chaos and nonconformity makes me feel at home and strangely significant, uniquely fitted among the messy and broken fragments of life.

We walk pressed together under the canopy of an umbrella H holds over us, rain spitting from heaven. But I want to feel it, cold and wet on my face.

The gold chain of my purse hangs diagonal over my black overcoat, white polka dot scarf loosely wrapped around my neck. Rows of black bowler hats idle in front of Harrods waiting to be haled for their paycheck. But we keep walking the familiar path we traveled the same week last May.

Choose the square table for two in the large plate glass window, next to the family speaking English with heavy accents. The family behind us speaks French. Or is it Italian?

“You sit facing the window,” H says, “so you can watch people.”

We order gnocchi and stems of chianti, sipping and savoring time. And suddenly, someone nearby screams a sneeze at an unusually high decibel. And the entire restaurant breaks out in corporate laughter.

Perhaps we find ourselves best in the comfort of what isn’t home.

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Joining the Five Minute Friday community at Lisa-Jo’s with a snatch of time from our journey through England this week. Pictures from Oxford and surrounding villages. The word prompt is Comfort.

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Impressed with This

 

But I am not careless of thy favour or regardless of thy glory;

Impress in me deeply with a sense of thine omnipresence,

that though art among

my path,

my ways,

my lying down,

my end.

 

~Valley of Vision, author unknown

 

We finish a week of jet lag, unloading suitcases, end of the year school projects and five inches of rain in one day.

Just last week I meandered through Hyde Park in London wearing an overcoat, hat and camera, holding hands with H while we muse long over that brush with Katie Couric at the Queens place (more on that Monday).

This week I walk barefoot along sandy shores of angry seas next to my mother-in-law, witness the crack of sky before the heavens open her flood.

As we slumber long, linger with steamy cups of joy, wear pajamas beyond reasonable, I am aware of this: 

Every day holds promise because He is present in all places, at all times.

Wherever you wander today, may you discover, welcome, and hope in His omnipresence.

Happy Saturday Friends!

 

Cobblestones, Christ, and Critics

I pull on my sheer black panty hose, slip into high heels, make my way down the carpeted corridor of the hotel , through the spinning door and walk into crowded streets holding my husband’s hand.  The air is thick with languages I don’t understand, curbs line with black cabs that look like bowler hats, phones hang in red windowed boxes.  We stop to take a picture of a Maserati twice.

We pass a man sitting on the ground covered in tattered blankets, his dog covered up next to him, notice that all the tables at the Lebanese restaurant  seat full.

The pace picks up like ants in line to food as we clip down steps to the underground train, stand on the platform under movie posters with silent crowds. The gusty hum of a train approaching fills the space with anticipation and we mind the gap around people getting off and on.

When we get off at Piccadilly Circus we walk behind a woman in a red dress, blond hair gathered high on her head, she holds the hand of a man in a flat tie, like a napkin pinned to his shirt. We follow them on cobblestones to Queen’s Theater with the flashing bulbs around the picture of that sad girl that reads Les Miserables.

And when we take our seats in the old theater with the lights that look like white balloons hanging upside down from the ceiling, I can’t help but wonder if we are the only Americans seated in this row.

Crocodile tears stream down my face at watching the way a man’s life changes in the single, unselfish kind act of another.  The same way Jesus died for me. My chest heaves at the wonder of redemption and the way it fills hollow souls.

The next morning, H reads to me from the news, that this week is the 150th anniversary of Les Miserables. That when originally published critics called it inept, immoral and overly sentimental.  How now it is one of the bestselling, most important novels of all time.

He gives me a breakfast of perspective on a tray of hope as a writer.

That God isn’t limited in the ways He chooses to use people, in how His message is communicated to reveal himself to the world, or by the perceptions of others toward your art.

That a heart moves toward Him in the overlap of our stories, in the way he redeems a life, and that just won’t be stopped by anyone, not even the critics.

Linking with Lisa-Jo for Five Minute Friday with the one word prompt: Perspective. (In my crazy morning of interruptions I went over five minutes, hope you extend grace.)

 

Waving Goodbye

We’re walking into church with a group of latecomers when she calls my name and I turn around startled. She is a familiar face in the crowd, but one I have only known in casual conversation at crowded dinner parties.

She admits reading an early blog post I wrote after our family trip to Washington, DC and how it resonates with her. The way I find inspiration in travelling to new places. How architecture and new faces open doors to rooms in my mind that seem locked in the mundane smallness of every day. She asks me to meet her for coffee to talk more.

That random story, it starts a new friendship. We find out, after a few brisk walks and pushing toes into sand, that we have more in common than just our need for inspiration and broad perspective.

Our solo life intersects with community through shared experiences; that comfortable middle seat of common on the row of diversity. Like the time I led a women’s retreat tucked away with the birds.  

I walk down the hall of the retreat center with a girlfriend when we notice the Brighton purse on the shoulder of a petite blond woman with big blue eyes. It pulls us over to her like a magnet. And after we tell her how much we like her purse, she tells us about how she is new to the area and doesn’t know anyone. It’s why she came to the retreat. To meet people.

I didn’t know then, that a Brighton purse would lead me to my best, most cherished friend of sixteen years now.  

My husband and I leave today for England and Scotland to celebrate our 22nd wedding anniversary.  Led  there because of family history, a castle that stands in the North of England where relatives still reside . . . and the inspiration of pea green hillsides, vibrant gardens, and accents that sound like beautiful music.

I’m taking a blogging break on regular posting for the next ten days.  I hope to share what I see and learn, what God whispers over rolling hills, under drizzle of rain, with you afterward.

I plan to share a few photos along the way on Facebook and Twitter. You can like my page and follow me, if you haven’t already,  for a taste of the journey.

Our solo lives have intersected in the common bond of Christ here in this community called Redemptions Beauty. And while I am away, I will be holding you in my heart, thanking Him for each of you.

 

When Life Hands You a Popsicle

It’s only been five hours since I crawled into bed, when my husband rolled his suitcase in the room wearing the smell of airports on his suit jacket.  The glare of red numbers still in the fives when I step on the carpet, wrap robe around chilly shoulders and open the glow of screen for Friday’s word prompt.

Together, it’s the word and I ask God what He wants me to say about it.  Linger over it while I spread mayonnaise on bread, zip lunchboxes, pour orange juice and close eyes over a steamy tea sauna steeping on the counter.

I write, push publish. Then God shows me another chapter of together in a day that unfolds like a landslide. I’m running to stay out of its way and watch where the earth decides to rest.

When the doors slam and the house empties, I climb into my monastery and drive to Myrtle Beach to meet Dawn, whom I have only known through the prose we pen on our blog houses.

On the way, Kelly calls.  I haven’t heard her voice in eleven years.  But the conversation picks up like we’re sitting with folded legs on the floor of her A-frame covered in snow on the mountain in California twenty years ago.

She calls to tell me about her trip to Scotland last summer, when she learns that I am going too. To share a slice of the city, so I can eat from her joy.

I shake hands with Dawn and her husband at the door of the Mexican restaurant. We sit over nachos and I learn what it’s like to pastor diversity and blog for more than seven months. We share faith like M&M’s in a bowl, savoring the sweetness one color at a time.

After we hug goodbye, I bump into the Chanel girls walking through the mall. Ask Laura about her cancer, and talk to Mary about disappointments over fine lines and sagging skin. They tell me to hydrate.

I buy some shoes from Lynn, tell her my feet changed. Explain that I hope these shoes won’t hurt my feet walking cobblestones in London and sidewalks in Edinburgh. She says she’s been there too, assures me our feet really do change.

When I walk into Ann Taylor Loft, the lady that wears orange sherbet every time I see her, she gasps and then smiles at me. Says she likes the blouse I’m wearing.  I tell her I remember her words every time I wear it, “You won’t be sorry you bought this.” She was right.

And when the earth rotates and I gently awake from slumber foggy eyed on my periwinkle pillow, I hear this: “Your words are like a popsicle, they drip sweetness.” I see a hand holding a popsicle covered melted cherry. My eyes are still closed.

I can’t stop thinking about the popsicle so I wander into the quiet of the kitchen, under the hum of refrigerator, open my book on the table and read the words of Baldwin of Ford:

“Jesus is sweet . . . . He is sweet in prayer, sweet in speech, sweet in reading, sweet in contemplation, sweet in conpunction, and in jubilation of the heart. He is sweet in the mouth, sweet in the heart, sweet in love; he is the love of sweetness and the sweetness of love . . . those who have tasted of him grow hungry, and those who are hungry will be satisfied and the sated will cry out the memory of his abundant sweetness.”

He shows me in the stillness. How His love drips sweet in panoramic perspective on the phone, in the restaurant, at the counter, in my dream, on the pages of my book, and when I close my eyes to pray.  The way of grace sticks sweet.

And I can’t help but wonder if my son will wake up wanting popsicles for breakfast.

“The Lord was made sweet to you because he liberated you . . .you had been bitter to yourself when you were occupied only with  yourself. Drink the sweetness.” ~Augustine

 I’m still counting gifts for the Joy Dare and I wrote every one of those holy moments mentioned above in my journal this week. I hope your still keeping your list too.

Linking with some good friends who I hope to see one day in real life too: Michelle DeRusha, Jen Ferguson, Shanda Oakley, Ann Voskamp, Laura Boggess, Carissa Graham and Heather.

Time for Everything

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven . . .

Ecclesiastes 3:1

 

Linking with Jumping Tandem, Scripture and SnapshotIn Search of Beauty

Longing to be Connected

 

It is the dark of night when the train huffs in on the tracks in the coal mining town in Colorado we call our temporary home. Pulls in to light up the interior of the car we sit in. They embark from the train, this young newlywed couple who’ve made the arduous journey from England to participate in an internship.

It was just the beginning of being connected.

Weekends seated on the canary yellow built-in benches of our rental, playing cards over the kitchen table amidst belly laughter, poking sarcasm, cheeky grins in the evenings. Pushing paper, making international calls, strategizing ministry events for Youth with a Mission during daylight hours.

All this time with so much hope ahead.  Life with questions only God can answer.  Circling conversations of inner struggles, family disappointments, hope for the future, how we would find money to feed ourselves, pay our rent.

We wave goodbye, move to Phoenix a short time later, put down roots in ministry, start a family. And at the same time in that tiny coal-mining town they expect a child too, move back to England.

Fifteen years later, standing in the hotel lobby of the Rembrandt, we embrace and it is if time stands still. With coats buttoned tight, cheeks lit up pink from what the wind kisses, umbrellas in tow, we walk the streets of London and pick up where we left off.

And the laughter is easy, honesty sure.  Because being connected in community isn’t the same thing as being social.  Community connects the heart in deep places that never forget.

Are you connected?   

Today, joining with Gypsy Mama for five minute friday. Writing from the heart for five minutes with the one word prompt Connected.